This thing, to be sharpened, is an element sadly lacking in most relationships.
It is unfortunate how many times we run, trembling, from the moments when we ought to have embraced our differences, learned something, gained a foreign perspective that amplifies our own understanding. Sharpens our faith. Better defines our walk.
My precious friend with the beautiful blue eyes and blinding smile emailed today to apologize for talking over me. She is sensitive, I am not. I hadn’t even remembered her doing so. In fact, for me? I was excited to meet someone who would meet me head on and counter my opinions. That? Is fun.
I know there are a million personal and private reason why we avoid being challenged by each other. Fear. Absence of confidence about our own perspectives. Inability to articulate or deeply held passions and perspectives.
I’m not writing to this to chastise anyone but to encourage. Sometimes we are being dragged by our bootstraps where we would have given up. Sometimes we are given an opportunity to more coherently and clearly define who and what we are. Sometimes we are giving the other person in the room the same opportunity.