My dear friend’s boy joined the Navy last summer. Being very athletic, intelligent, mature and, most importantly, black, he was snapped up like a cupcake at a fat farm.
He went into basic not knowing what to expect and found it a) not as physically challenging as he’d anticipated since he already worked out 3 hours a day with both cardio and weight lifting, b) not as emotionally taxing as he’d anticipated since he grew up in a very stable, supportive home with a father who could get righteously incensed and is, ahem, extremely vocal in his opinions. This young man had learned to stand his ground.
That is not to say that he didn’t struggle and didn’t come out fundamentally altered. And a bit sketchy for a few weeks. 😉
This boy, now a man, has an air of confidence that has been earned, a respectful and responsible character and, it rather goes without saying that he was a super star at basic.
Chosen for a specific and very prestigious award (which shall remain nameless because it’s too late to call my friend and ask), he was then given an assignment which has the potential to propel him quite a ways in his Naval career.
So, this young Christian man, determined to do his best, honor the Lord and serve his country to the best of his ability, was sent to his Very Important Assignment. Or whatever they call it in the Navy. He’s a big wig. He’s met the Obama’s by now.
He’s too cool for words. And I’m the doting, more than a little ridiculous aunt figure in his life who squeezes him and pats his velvet head at every opportunity. I.Love.Him. And I pray for him daily.
But, this man, with all of his accomplishments and high scores on testing, all the favor that he’s received from commanding officers has this one, rather significant, complaint about the posting and the enlisted and officers under whom he serves.
They are debauched. Sexual deviancy of all kinds is not only common knowledge but expected and celebrated behavior in the barracks. And his experience is not, well, unusual according to the first hand accounts of another dear friend who served years ago in another branch of the military.
However, this man, because he doesn’t choose to indulge or engage in the same behavior as those around him has been the object of extreme ridicule and has even had concerns about his advancement as he hasn’t caved to the pressure from his CO ( a man) to engage in “relations” and has been given extraordinary tasks in an effort to “break” him or cause him to cave.
The stories I’ve heard make my hair frizz and my heart ache for him.
But he’s there, God is making a way and providing for him. God is clearing a path through the decadence and deviance, the debauchery and debasement. And he’s standing firm. Love that boy.
So, I pose this question to my military or better-informed readers.
Who the hell cares about DADT when this type of behavior is both common practice and knowledge already?
Or is DADT just a window dressing to appease the Bible Belt Patriotic Hoo Ha’s who don’t have a clue and want a white-washed and personally palatable military that they can feel good about?